Tantra THC: Using Cannabis to Make Sex Sacred
With cannabis-enhanced yoga practice becoming mainstream — and with cannabis used to enhance experiences with food, music, and nature for decades — nobody has to tell a savvy stoner that marijuana makes for better sex.
Sex is one of the most potent ways for us to find deep relaxation, pleasure, and connection, especially when coupled with nature’s healing herb.
And cannabis makes sex better, as many readers already know. Some historians have argued that ganja was a vital part of some ancient tantric sexual rituals in India, where yogis used cannabis smoke as a form of sacred incense, before having what they called — of course — “High Sex.”
For those who don’t know, Tantra yoga is a spiritual tradition that utilizes all human experiences for enlightenment. It allows greater relaxation, pleasure, connection, well-being. It allows feeling good.
And while it is about much more than just sex, Tantra encourages the exact types of experiences provided by both good sex and a good buzz.
Tantra is also “for anyone and everyone.” This ancient path meets the practitioner wherever they’re at. Your messy emotions and unfinished business are welcomed, your ego’s limitations and shadow aspects are acknowledged and accepted. You don’t need to change anything about yourself to begin to practice Tantra.
The idea is that over time, this practice of acceptance will shed unconscious mental tensions, and slowly move us towards higher levels of consciousness that are guided by love and insight.
MORE (AND BETTER THAN)
In its acceptance of everything-about-being-human, Tantra teaches us how to harness our huge lusty sex drives. This is a spiritual practice that is OK with dirty minds and ripe-hot genitals. The confusion is when people think Tantra always has to do with sex.
Because Tantra includes all aspects of human existence, it encompassing the unsexy aspects as well. So, ordinary dishwashing is a Tantric experience, if you practice being keenly present to the sensations of the suds, the smooth porcelain, and the temperature of the water, all while breathing deeply and feeling connected to your self.
Maybe you’ve been in flow while out for a run or crafting something. Maybe you’ve been fully present and full of pleasure with a pet or child. Maybe you’ve lost all inhibition on the dance floor. Tantra says, “Put the productive, consumptive, and fear-driven down and become mindful.” Sensuality, presence, and relaxation are the ultimate bliss states offered by Tantra and attainable to everyone. And sexual energy is not required.
Having said that, many people — myself included — would argue that good sex is the best way for most humans to safely escape the endless lists of tasks and concerns, the psychic sludge that keeps us ignorant to spiritual truths.
I know many of us for whom a good romp is the surest way to feel blissful emotions and connection experiences. Really good sex or masturbation, with lots of energy build-up and heart-full intention, brings us toward higher states of consciousness.
We feel peaceful, at ease, and satisfied. There’s less need to worry if our jeans make our ass look fat or if we should invite a so-so friend to our party. It’s all — at least temporarily — not a concern. The ego isn’t as identified with as strongly.
This is ordinary, good sex. Add a few practices to deepen the experience and we accelerate our spiritual path, feeling gratitude abundance, joy and connection, higher insight and deeper meaning, more and more often.
And all from fucking.
Then add weed?
TANTRA IN PRACTICE
If a couple (or any combination of consenting adults) wants to explore “Tantric Sex,” the main consideration is bringing to the experience a relaxed sense of mindfulness — also known as “presence,” “consciousness,” or “awareness.” Be Here Now.
Most practitioners of Ganja Yoga find cannabis brings about this state of consciousness more easily. Cannabis makes us more fascinated with the movements the body and the breathing practices of hatha yoga (regular yoga).
When having a tantric experience — sexual or otherwise — the yoga practitioner will notice that the mind wanders away from the present to a memory from the past or a fantasy about the future, and gently, but firmly bring the attention back to the breath and body, two aspects of the present moment that are always with us. We do this mental work time and time again while on the yoga mat.
Interestingly, cannabis increases alpha activity in the brain, the type of wave generally associated with meditative and relaxed states. When coupled with a meditative practice, the effects are of course greater, so we get more of the desired result: the relaxed, open, loving spiritual state that all yoga practices move us toward.
During tantric yoga practices — and tantric sex — we come back to the present moment by tapping back into the most delicious, connected, turn-on experience that’s happening in the present moment to slowly awaken to new dimensions of reality that are free of worry and anxiety.
Cannabis makes this easier — but you know what? I bet you’re already having tantric sex of some kind, especially if you’re the type that likes to share a bowl with your honey before making out.
TAKING IT HOME
Some ancient Tantriks used cannabis as a sacrament, and some modern-day yogis continue to do so. Modern-day stoners like you and me get a direct experience of the spiritual teachings of Ganja when THC enters our bodies — our hearts, brains, and genitals. Tantra and Ganja are birds of a feather, a match made in heaven, to those who are called to incorporate them.
So, stoners and loves: your first Tantric homework practice is to just be mindful more and more often, inside the bedroom and out. Whatever you’re already doing in the sack, whether alone or with others, slow it down and savor it the riches of life. Relax and don’t worry about technique. Let yourself Be Here Now — clumsy, vulnerable, and real.
Being present is more important than pushing the right button, but I will dole out some tips and techniques in next month’s article. In the meantime, wake up and smell the roses, letting cannabis enhance the fragrance of this mysterious and amazing thing called life!
In the next installment this series on cannabis and Tantric sexuality, you’ll learn how to make a hot modern sex ritual, how to use ganja to heighten libido and connection, and how to use your sexual energy to cultivate a more spiritually awakened energy of love and compassion in more and more of your interactions. You’ll probably last longer and climax harder, too, but let’s always keep in mind that those are just perks of the practice, pale in comparison to an awakened heart.