Highly Arousing: Cannabis on V-Day
Valentine’s Day plans are blooming, so we hit up some local sexperts on how to use cannabis as an aphrodisiac.
There is no scientific proof that marijuana really is an aphrodisiac. But there are millions of cannabis users who swear they’ve had the best sex ever while stoned.
With Valentine’s Day high anigh, SF Weekly asked a variety of cannabis sexperts for advice on how to plan the ultimate erotic infused date, and for that matter, whether cannabis really is an aphrodisiac.
“Cannabis is an excellent aphrodisiac,” says Amanda Denz, co-founder and CMO of the delivery service Sava. She notes that cannabis is a vasodilator, and makes your blood rush madly to certain extremely useful erogenous zones.
“There are a few different ways you can ingest cannabis as an aphrodisiac. You can use it locally as a topical [lotion]. If you use it as a topical, you’re just putting it on your genitals or any other part of your body where you want to increase sensitivity.”
But there’s a wealth of ways weed can get you hornier for your Valentine’s Day date night.
“Vaping has a really quick onset, within a few seconds of inhaling,” Denz tells SF Weekly. “If you take an edible, it has a little longer of an onset.”
This being San Francisco, there are multiple meetups to discuss the intersection of marijuana and sexuality. Cannabis media company and lifestyle brand Oov Life is holding one of these events in Hayes Valley this Saturday. LUST: A Night of Sexual Wellness & Empowerment will feature the hippest infused sexual wellness products, sensual pole dance troupe S Factor, and an oyster bar, because you know what they say about oysters.
“It’s multidimensional how you integrate cannabis to health and wellness,” says Oov Lifestyle founder and CEO Ozzie Ozkay-Villa. “A lot of people have this misconception that when you consume cannabis you need to get high. That’s just not the case. There’s amazing topicals and CBD edibles that have no THC in them.”
Each of the experts recommends modest microdoses, avoiding alcohol, and taking it slowly when adding a sash of herb to your date night.
“No giant bong rips or date night dabs,” cautions Johanna Nuding of the cannabis lifestyle guide Casually Baked. “Let cannabis be a part of your evening, not the main event.”
“Cannabis and alcohol mixed can sometimes lead to bedroom disasters or people unable to perform. I encourage people to explore the idea of a slow cannabis-infused evening free of booze.”
Intoxicants are traditionally a way of checking out or getting wasted. That won’t be helpful for navigating your partner’s sweet spots, so do have “the talk” before getting it on, and remain in a headspace where you’re tuned in to boundaries and safewords.
“As affirmative consent becomes the standard in our culture, it’s important to understand the inevitable grey areas of incorporating recreational cannabis into your sex life,” matchmaker and dating coach Erin Beata tells SF Weekly. “Check in before any major escalation of sexual activity, especially with a newer partner.”
Safe sex is an issue too, since cannabis lubes are oil-based and not safe for use with latex condoms. But the infused personal lubricant experts at San Francisco’s Quim Rock have just released a latex-safe sensual serum called Oh Yes that’s hitting dispensary shelves and delivery services.
Another local legend on the infused product scene, cannabis tea brand Kikoko, prescribes their low-THC offering Sensuali-Tea, whose aphrodisiac formulation is based on scientific evidence about arousal and orgasms.
“We recommend that people drink Sensuali-Tea either in the form of tea or a ‘teatail,’ walk or Lyft to dinner, have a remarkably fun, deep, and open discussion, then go home and disrobe,” says Kikoko co-founder Amanda Jones.
Casually Baked’s Johanna Nuding also recommends setting the mood with music, and stresses the importance of pillow talk.
“Ask your partner, ‘How are you? What was your favorite part of your day?’ ” she says. “Get some quality time connecting with your partner. Maybe that leads to sharing a joint, or talking about sexual fantasies, or maybe you had a sexy dream about them a few nights ago. Turn the conversation into something more romantic and sexy.”
“If you’re with someone who’s a cannabis lightweight, maybe you smoke a THC joint and you get them their own CBD joint. You can smoke together, but they’ll get relaxed instead of way too high and unable to connect, communicate, or orgasm.”
Everyone’s body chemistry processes cannabinoids differently, so the pleasure pundits of pot all recommend starting with low doses and working your way up if so desired. In other words, keep your feet on the ground while you and your partner join the mile-high club.
LUST: A Night of Sexual Wellness & Empowerment, Saturday, Feb. 9, 6:30 p.m., at Big Rock, 34 Page St., $55; 415-741-0291 or oov.life